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The Upstander Tool-Kit
The Upstander Tool-Kit
When you see someone being targeted, you don’t have to be a superhero—you just have to be a friend. Use these scripts and strategies to echo kindness in your digital world.
The "Reach Out" (DM a Friend)
The "Reach Out" (DM a Friend)
If you see someone getting roasted or bullied in a group chat or comments section, don’t ignore it. Send them a private message.
What to say:
"Hey, I saw those comments. That’s not cool at all. Just wanted you to know I’m on your side."
"Are you okay? That seemed pretty intense. I’m here if you want to talk about it."
"Don’t listen to them—they don't know the full story like I do."
The "Distraction" (Public Pivot)
The "Distraction" (Public Pivot)
Sometimes the best way to stop a bully is to change the subject and take away their audience.
What to do:
Post a positive comment on the person's page that has nothing to do with the drama.
In a group chat, start a new topic: "Anyway, did anyone see the game last night?" or "Who’s going to the game Friday?"
Shift the energy: "Let's keep it positive in here, guys."
The "Report & Block" (Technical Support)
The "Report & Block" (Technical Support)
Remember the PSA: Report it. Block it. You can do this even if you aren't the one being bullied.
Reporting: Most apps allow you to report a comment or profile as "harassment" even if it's not directed at you. It’s anonymous.
Evidence: If a friend is too stressed to save the evidence, take a screenshot for them (just in case they need to show a trusted adult later).
How to Talk to a "Trusted Adult"
How to Talk to a "Trusted Adult"
If you aren't sure how to start that conversation, try these openers:
If you are the one being bullied...
"I’m having some trouble with someone online and it’s making me feel pretty unsafe. Can we talk?"
"Someone is posting things about me that aren't true. I’ve blocked them, but I’m still stressed."
If you are worried about a friend...
"I saw some stuff happening to [Name] on TikTok and it looks really bad. I don't know what to do."
"I’m worried about [Name]. They’ve been really quiet lately because of some drama in the group chat."
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